Updated: May 13, 2022
Getting healthier can seem like a bit of an overwhelming concept for some. Where do I start? What should I focus on? Where do I go for the right advice for me? Sometimes, it can be a lot, but I want to show you that it doesn't have to be this way. Keep reading to discover how SMALL incremental changes can have a BIG impact on your health!
I totally get how confusing it can be with all the conflicting advice out there Maybe you've seen, heard or been told the following:
Eat vegan/eat paleo
No carbs/carbs are essential for energy
Don't snack/ Eat 5 small meals a day
Do HIIT classes 3 times a week/don't do high intensity exercise
Don't eat sugar/Don't eat fat
It can be hard to determine what is the right way for you as an individual. If we all had housekeepers, chefs and personal trainers it'd be grand wouldn't it but the reality is different.
Sometimes, it can get to the point where it's easier to do nothing than to do something!
How many times have you said to yourself...... "Monday is the day where I sort my shit out. No junk, 3 litres of water, bed early, exercise 4 times a week, journal, meditate" only to fail to meet your very high expectations of yourself within 14 days and be annoyed and disappointed!!! Does it have to be all or nothing? Is this a sustainable approach?
Maybe it's time to get clear on what your actual goals are and work towards them step-by-step.
A phrase I've heard a LOT over the years as a nutritional therapist and health coach working with women is 'I know what to do, but I just can't/don't do it'.
The Pareto Principle – aka the 80/20 Rule
The Pareto principle states that for many outcomes, roughly 80% of consequences come from 20% of the causes. For example:
20% of the workers produce 80% of the goods
20% of the customers create 80% of the revenu
20% of computer bugs cause 80% of the crashes
20% of the clothes in people’s wardrobes are worn 80% of the time.
Applied to health, this could mean: 20% of your lifestyle choices are responsible for 80% of your health outcomes. That would mean that small changes, or even a single one, could have a significant impact. If you are a smoker, just giving up smoking would greatly impact your health, your sense of smell, and your physical stamina, not to mention your finances.
Pick the one thing that bothers you the most, the one thing that you suspect has the strongest impact on your wellbeing and focus on that for now
If you drink alcohol most days and too much of it on many of those days, cutting back or – ideally - going sober would make a difference in how well you sleep, how much you weigh, how likely you are to suffer from heart disease, cancer, dementia or liver disease later in life.
If your life revolves around sugar, removing just that one substance from your diet could reduce pain and inflammation, put an end to cravings and binges, improve your mood and protect you from type 2 diabetes, hypertension, heart disease and dementia.
I’m not saying that either of those changes would be easy, but you don’t have to turn your whole life around to be healthier in the future than you are now. If you decided today to become a health saint from tomorrow and were actually able to do that, then, yes, you may become 100% healthy. But how realistic is that? According to the Pareto principle, however, chances are (and it is not a law) that you may become a lot healthier with a lot less effort.
So, pick the one thing that bothers you the most, the one thing that you suspect has the strongest impact on your wellbeing and focus on that for now. It's a place to start. Once you have truly conquered that, you can, if you want, move on and tackle the next thing – one step at a time.
How many times has a friend, or your partner shared a health tip with you that worked for them?
Maybe your friend swears by keto/vegan/gluten free/blah blah eating because it helped her feel more energised, lose weight and be happier. If the thoughts of removing carbs/meat/bread/dairy fills you with dread then maybe someone elses way of eating is not for you.
If you would rather stick needles in your eyes than track every morsel and macro that you eat on a fitness app you are entitled to feel this way (don't blame you:))
If exercise is lacking from your life and you would like to change that, find a type of exercise that YOU will enjoy and do that instead. If you are not sure, try out different things. Think back to when you were a child: What did you love then? Could you revive that love you had for cycling? Would it be worth dusting off your rollerblades? Can you find a dance class near you?
It's important to find an approach that aligns with you and obviously that works to address the health concerns or symptoms that are holding you back.
Some people decide to cut out sugar and stop eating it there and then, either because they are the kind of person that will stick to resolutions or … because they know that having ONE biscuit will open the floodgates and they are not going to stop until they have demolished the entire packet. Others can’t face the thought of never having another biscuit – but they CAN stop after having just one every now and then. Which kind of person are you? Once you have established that, you can plan your strategy.
I've been doing work on this myself recently. In my case, my goal was to help myself with post Covid fatigue and 'meh-ness' and to try and support my wonky perimenopausal hormones. Now, I know the theory, have studied and devoured the literature, the webinars, the books etc. but....... I couldn't put it into practice so I had to break it down into very small steps with very clear action points and goals and I had to take it slowly.
Research has found that people who have goals – particularly high or hard goals – are considerably more likely to succeed than people who do not. Ideally, those goals should be SMART:
Specific – be clear about EXACTLY what you want to achieve. “I will cook from scratch 5 times per week” is specific. “I will eat more home-cooked food” is not.
Measurable – You can easily count the times you have cooked from scratch. You could even track it with a tick list.
Attainable – If you’re working 10-hour days and have a two-hour commute, it may not be feasible to cook five times a week. But batch-cooking five meals on a weekend might be.
Relevant – Is this goal relevant for you? Does it match your values? Why is it important to you?
Timely – When do you want to achieve this by?
Now, you could write down a list of goals, every single one of them SMART. But is it feasible to reach them all? After all, the goal is just wishful thinking at this stage. You still have to actually do what it takes to get there. Will you be willing and able to put in the hard work required to reach ALL of your goals? Depending on how much effort your different goals require, consider whether it might not be better to pick one – the one that will have the most impact – and focus on that. Much better to reach one goal than to abandon five because you are overwhelmed.
Another 80/20 Rule
“If you eat healthily 80 per cent of the time, you can afford to go off track 20 per cent of the time.”
Total deprivation isn't healthy and isn't always necessary either. I'm all for a really positive relationship with food.
Note that “healthily” can means differnet things for different people of course.
When you first make changes to your diet, it can feel like you are “on a diet”. You’re not. You’re learning to eat differently for life in order to benefit from your new way of eating for life.
If, after four weeks or so, you were to go back to the way you were eating before – as most diets prescribe - you will get the same results as before and perhaps feel sluggish, tired, and overweight again, as the case may be. So, you’ll want to change your diet forever, but “forever” seems like a very, very long time.
Does that mean that you’ll never have another slice of cake? Never another pizza? No more Chinese takeaways? Ever? Sure with that prospect, you may never start!
This is where the other 80/20 rule comes in. A little junk food now and then, a slice of cake or a couple of scoops of ice cream are not going to kill you. If you are at your friend’s dinner party, there are carbs on offer, and you fancy those potatoes/chips/pasta, by all means, have it.
This does NOT mean that you have fallen off the wagon and might as well not bother anymore. It means that you ate away from home and had what was on offer. It's not the end of the world. Move on and eat according to your new way of eating again tomorrow.
There is just one caveat to this, which goes back to what I said above: Know yourself! If you are an all-or-nothing person, if you know that having had chips once, you may never be able to get off them again, then perhaps don’t tempt fate.
Once you have followed your new way of eating for some time, once you have seen and felt the benefits, once your tastebuds have adapted, you may find that you no longer like the foods you couldn’t resist in the past. Cravings subside and processed, sweet or junk foods become a lot less appealing. This is a very enpowering and liberating experience!
Create new habits
Allegedly, the average adult makes around 35,000[iii] conscious decisions a day, 221 of which are just about food[iv]. It's hard to imagine it could be so many, but we don’t need an accurate figure to understand how exhausting it is to make decisions all the time:
What shall I wear?
Do I fancy eggs or porridge today?
If eggs, should they be boiled, poached, scrambled or fried?
Will I go for a run/walk/gym now or later?
How long for? Which route? Alone or in company? With or without headphones?
It is easy to see how all those decisions mount up.
Habits are efficient. They free up your brain to busy itself with more important questions.
However, we do not (usually) debate with ourselves whether we should brush our teeth today or have a shower. There is no debate about whether we should put our bra or our socks on first. We don’t deliberate over whether to put on the seat belt when we get into a car. That’s because these things are habits. They run on autopilot. You may not even know which item of clothing you put on your body first in the morning because it just happens. It's a habit. You do not need to think about it.
Habits take away the need to make a decision. We once decided that this is how we will do something and then do it repeatedly until it happens almost by itself. Habits may make life more predictable, perhaps more boring in some respects, but also easier. Habits are efficient. They free up your brain to busy itself with more important questions.
Forming a new habit takes anything between 18 and 254 days, on average 66.[v] Whether it takes someone closer to 18 or closer to 254 depends to some extent on the type of person you are, but what researchers say is most important when trying to form a new habit is consistency. Do that thing you want to get into every day, and you are much more likely to make it a habit.
Any step – even baby step – you take will take you in the right direction and closer to where you want to be. But only if you take it.
If you can’t do it every day, perhaps you’ve bitten off more than you can chew at once. Did you plan on going for a 30-minute run every day, but find it is not happening? Then how about a 10-minute run? Or even a 10-minute walk? Chances are that, once you’re out there, you’ll walk or run for longer, now that you’ve put your running gear and your shoes on and got yourself out of the house, you might as well. But if 10 minutes each day seems a lot more feasible than 30, start there.
Do you want to cut back or even eliminate carbs from your diet? Some people can ditch all carbs all at once, but most find it difficult. Depending on where you are in the process, you could start by switching from refined (white) starchy carbohydrates to unrefined (wholegrain) versions: steelcut, rolled oats instead of instant, brown rice instead of white, wholegrain bread instead of white. Next, you could reduce portions sizes. Or, if you are feeling up to it, you could start by just quitting sugar, leaving the other starchy carbs alone for now.
Any step – even baby step – you take will take you in the right direction and closer to where you want to be. But only if you take it.
Get a coach
There are very few people who are able to make a decision to change a habit and then just do it. The vast majority of us needs help with that, ideally with an accountability partner. Often, people who decide to quit smoking, run a marathon or write a book will announce their intention to friends, family or even on Facebook or their blog. That’s for accountability. One day, someone will ask: “Hey, how far did you get with that book of yours? Is the first chapter ready yet?” Most people will find it uncomfortable to have nothing to show for in that situation, and that’s a feeling they want to avoid. So, they sit down and write.
Others may want to change a habit, but not announce it to the world. They may not want to rope in friends and family – or friends and family don’t wish to be roped in. Perhaps they are very private, or perhaps they want to jump out one day and say: “Ta-da! I’m a size 10!”
There are many good reasons to choose a coach to be your accountability partner. A trained coach can help you define your priorities, set your goals, cheer you on, guide you over humps and lulls and generally has your back. I am a coach and would be delighted to do that for you. If you would like to have a chat about how I can help you get to where you want to be, contact me on info@ciararryannutrition or 087 7955509.
To learn more about habit formation and strategies to do it, I can recommend reading “Atomic Habits” (James Clear, 2018) and “Better Than Before” (Gretchen Rubin, 2016).
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